of getting your ex back?

I have long been a sobriety counselor and have come to understand that there are many things in this life that can be addicting. From behaviors, good habits or bad, to food and all the comfort it gives, to even love and the trouble a broken heart can be. And how do we break our habits? The bottle of tequila that offers solace seldom says get out and stay out. The chocolate cake doesn’t get up and storm out. Our need to chew every bite one hundred times seldom says Ok enough, more than enough. And if our carpet wears out from compulsive vacuuming maybe so do our relationships.

When is it we say NO? How are decisions made. Did you break his heart or visa versa? Do heart mend or are they so broken it is impossible to see the wound for the bleeding? What was the relationship worth? A lifetime. A moment. A chance encounter. Was it good, bad or indifferent? Are you just trying to save the relationship for something to do until the right one comes along? What is a dysfunctional relationship? What is your ex?
Are you stalked or victimized. Or maybe just bored. Or clearly understanding it’s “the one” and you must get your ex back and right now,

Some suggest jewelry for the ex girlfriend or maybe flowers or a lovely, romantic card, or how about a favorite movie or meal. How about tickets to his favorite ball park for him? Or are you the fool with the broken heart intent on getting the ex back through constant messenging, texting, or phone calls that end up hurting more than healing. How about a relationship therapist? The first question there might be do you have a credit card and then of course how much is this relationship worth? What is this ex you want back?

Don’t play the favorite songs you and your ex enjoyed. To get your ex back, he or she, maybe both of you have disassociated from the pleasures of those moments held in song or dance. Is that called PTSD of the ex is packed and gone type. Anxious and depressed can you find new moments in maybe a movie or walk? Dinner or just the silence of sharing a time and a place where hummingbirds are gone so soon it seems a dream enchanted you both.

Or maybe it’s time to pack, the song remembered so sure, for it is real there are fifty ways to leave a lover and start anew. Just leave your drama coaches at home. Pack and gone.

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