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Relationships play an incredibly vital role in our lives. Our relationships will often define who we are and much of what goes on in our lives will be based on the relationships we have. Relationships however do not necessarily last forever and any type of relationship can become strained and can end. The most common case for this involves romantic relationships. Finding a partner in life involves finding someone you are incredibly compatible with and given the difficulty of doing this many of us will go through many partners before we find one that we are so highly compatible with that we will be with them forever. Sometimes you do find this person that you are highly compatible with but due to mistakes on one or both of your parts things become strained and you end up breaking up. To get ex back you need to step back and consider what led to the break up in the first place. Realistically assess if it was only a mistake as opposed to a true mismatch and work to convince them (and more importantly demonstrate to them) that this will not happen again. Once you are back with them you need to amplify that which went right and avoid that which led to the break up.

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I have long been a sobriety counselor and have come to understand that there are many things in this life that can be addicting. From behaviors, good habits or bad, to food and all the comfort it gives, to even love and the trouble a broken heart can be. And how do we break our habits? The bottle of tequila that offers solace seldom says get out and stay out. The chocolate cake doesn’t get up and storm out. Our need to chew every bite one hundred times seldom says Ok enough, more than enough. And if our carpet wears out from compulsive vacuuming maybe so do our relationships.

When is it we say NO? How are decisions made. Did you break his heart or visa versa? Do heart mend or are they so broken it is impossible to see the wound for the bleeding? What was the relationship worth? A lifetime. A moment. A chance encounter. Was it good, bad or indifferent? Are you just trying to save the relationship for something to do until the right one comes along? What is a dysfunctional relationship? What is your ex?
Are you stalked or victimized. Or maybe just bored. Or clearly understanding it’s “the one” and you must get your ex back and right now,

Some suggest jewelry for the ex girlfriend or maybe flowers or a lovely, romantic card, or how about a favorite movie or meal. How about tickets to his favorite ball park for him? Or are you the fool with the broken heart intent on getting the ex back through constant messenging, texting, or phone calls that end up hurting more than healing. How about a relationship therapist? The first question there might be do you have a credit card and then of course how much is this relationship worth? What is this ex you want back?

Don’t play the favorite songs you and your ex enjoyed. To get your ex back, he or she, maybe both of you have disassociated from the pleasures of those moments held in song or dance. Is that called PTSD of the ex is packed and gone type. Anxious and depressed can you find new moments in maybe a movie or walk? Dinner or just the silence of sharing a time and a place where hummingbirds are gone so soon it seems a dream enchanted you both.

Or maybe it’s time to pack, the song remembered so sure, for it is real there are fifty ways to leave a lover and start anew. Just leave your drama coaches at home. Pack and gone.

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We all go through it at one point in time in our lives, the person we love more than anything ends our relationship, or we end it for one reason or another. Then days or weeks later we make the decision that we want that person back in our lives. That is the easy part, deciding that we want the ex back that is. The hard part is getting that ex back in our lives. Prior to embarking on trying to get your ex back there are a few things you should do.

The first step in getting your ex back is to determine why you broke up in the first place. Was it something you did, something he did, a mutual decision or a misunderstanding. Once you have come to a conclusion as to why the relationship ended you need to sit back and seriously ask yourself if you are willing to take the risk of getting in a new relationship with the same person. It is important that you think about the arguments, fights, and things that you did not have in common. The annoying things that he or she did, the things that got on your nerves. You need to ask yourself if you are sure you want to go back to that.

If your answer is yes then it is time to move forward. Be honest with yourself and with your ex about your feelings. Have an honest conversation with him or her about the past, what went wrong and what both of you can do to make certain that things do not go wrong in the future. How working together the two of you can have a successful relationship.

Now that you have evaluated your feelings and had an open honest conversation with your ex you are on your way to restarting your relationship. Just remember the key is to be honest with yourself and your ex about your intentions.

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I keep wondering so many times if during the late teens and twenties if we did not waste time in idle romantic fantasies, we could use it to so profitably. That is the most productive period in a man’s life to make his career, to work on his qualifications, to be productive in the company and make lot of money, etc. Around 8-10 years are easily lost in the chasing the love of our life. There are many who even make their entire life worthless by mourning for one person, who has so ruthlessly left them.

But then, romance is a part of life and everyone should try to be romantic and dreamy eyed. It perks you up, rejuvenates, makes life meaningful and adds that extra fervor to all our daily deeds. Dreams are lovely and when they turn into reality, it feels divine. When you have the person of your choice next, you feel the entire world is at your feet and you have conquered the tallest peak. But if the same person jilts you, everything comes crashing down and falls apart. Have you had some misunderstandings with your lady love and are feeling terrible and have lost your focus and concentration in all activities? Have you become a butt of jokes at home and outside on account of this. You may ignore outsiders and but your family members are doing that it is because they care for you and want you to recover soon. Pay heed to their concern and try to be a normal person and carry on with your work, as if nothing has happened, though the pain will persist. If your lady love truly loves you and has only left you temporarily, she will come back and if she does not, presume that she was not the right person for you and do not wreck your life for her.

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